Sometimes it can be hard to tell if you’re really in love or not. You might feel physical attraction, or a spark, or some inexplicable something in the pit of your stomach… but is it really love? Or is it infatuation? Is it a crush? Or is it a future marriage? If you’ve been swept off your feet by a new relationship but aren’t sure whether you’re in love, see if any of these six signs apply to you so you can figure out if it’s the real thing.
1. You love spending time together.
It doesn’t matter what the two of you do. Whether you’re on a nice date or simply relaxing on the couch, there’s nowhere else you’d rather be. You do things you dislike and go places that you usually avoid just to spend time with your significant other.
2. Thoughts of the future frequently enter your mind.
When you begin making future plans and it seems so natural, you are likely in love. Planning vacations several months out, assuming you will be together for your cousin’s wedding later in the year, creating a bucket list of activities for the two of you to accomplish… you are invested in this person and are not afraid to embrace a future with them.
3. You want to be a better person.
Do you find yourself smiling at people on the streets and wishing passers-by a good day? Have you become more polite, developed a more generous spirit, learned to accept people’s flaws and love them for who they are? Love inspires us to be the best versions of ourselves and to reach our highest potential.
4. The chemistry is unreal.
Sparks fly when you’re together; sparks fly when you’re apart and thinking of him or her. The heart knows what it wants, and this incredible feeling has taken over you — your heart literally stirs within your chest. You constantly want to be touching: cuddling, kissing, holding hands, getting as physically close as you can be.
5. You no longer notice other men or women in quite the same way.
Regardless of your relationship status, we all notice the opposite (or same) sex. We’re all only human, after all. When I’m with my girlfriends, I will still casually check out other men — very innocently and discreetly, of course — but if a particularly good-looking man crosses my path, I look. Previously, I might have tried to make eye contact and flirt, but love has changed all of that. I see, but I don’t notice. I see, but I don’t care! I may fleetingly appreciate someone’s beauty, but that is the extent of it. I am filled with too much respect for my partner, and nothing can cause me to waiver.
6. There’s nothing better than doing nothing together.
When single, I am a social butterfly. When I begin to date someone, I go out all the time — this is the fun period, and it is stimulating to be in the company of other people while together. Once I fell in love, however, I discovered that there really is nothing better than simply being together without an agenda. Whereas I used to live for the nightlife, I now live for the simple moments: staying at home, cuddling up on the couch, playing with our dog. Having someone to just comfortably do nothing with is the greatest perk of being in love, and for me, a primary sign of true love.