What Makes New Yorkers Angsty And Why People Need To Stop Calling Us Rude

6/4/14 12:26PM EST

What Makes New Yorkers Angsty And Why People Need Need To Stop Calling Us Rude What Makes New Yorkers Angsty And Why People Need To Stop Calling Us Rude

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Spoiler alert: New Yorkers are sometimes an angsty bunch.

Ok, so you already knew that. But for once, let’s just stop to understand why this is the case. It’s not like 8 million grouchy people just sprouted up from the ground, or the city particularly welcomes all the angry and annoyed people of the world into its equally angsty arms. In reality everyday, every moment, every second of the day New Yorkers are dealing with a host of nuisances with which people in other cities just can’t empathize. Though we love the city to the moon and back, it’s these little things that make life a little more—hell, a lot more—chaotic and stressful. And what kind of person’s mood and well-being isn’t affected by his or her external environment? So, no, New Yorkers are certainly not just inherently grouchy, angsty people. And more importantly, we’re not rude, so this is a misnomer that everyone is pretty sick of hearing. If you want to understand what makes New Yorkers so angsty, take a walk in our concrete-paving shoes—and please, give the “New Yorkers are so rude” spiel a rest.

There’s Never a Quiet Moment

Ok, so you know what you’re getting yourself into when you move to The Big Apple. But that doesn’t mean that we’re immune to the same things that annoy people everyday. For one, the city is incredibly and obnoxiously loud all the time. Imagine being held hostage at an off-key, earsplitting, neverending orchestra performance. You’d have to have the patience and peace of mind of the Dalai Lama not to let that get under your skin. Living in the city means rarely having a quiet moment. Sometimes it’s the rumbles and rattles of construction trucks; other times it’s the sirens and horns of ambulances and cop cars. And just when you think you’ve escaped it all in the nook of your cozy apartment to catch some Zs, you hear the baby next door wailing crystal clear through the thin walls of your 1920s walkup. It’s just loud all the damn time, and just when you think you’re used to it, you remember how annoying it still is when you need one just one moment of silence. So cut us some slack for those ugly scowls on our faces—we’re just trying to zone you the hell out.

There’s Never Enough Time

For the rest of the world, the days are 24 hours long. In New York, somehow they seem much, much shorter. People say life here is always on-the-go, and no one ever stops to rest. Well, there’s no lie in that. While most New Yorkers thrive on that type of non-stop energy flow, it’s also something that can make us come off as extremely annoyed and rude. But the city literally doesn’t sleep, and it most definitely doesn’t run on our schedules. Everything is about timing, and New York life is just a constant matter of getting from one place to another. Whether on foot or on the subway, you’ve got a matter of seconds to cross the street or squeeze your way onto a packed train to get where you’re going. Oh, and there’s also about 100 people doing the same thing at the same time, so agility and swiftness are your friends in the race—otherwise, be prepared to get slammed into, stepped on and cursed at for getting in someone else’s way.

So unfortunately, there’s just really no time for a stroll down the sidewalk or a leisure car ride; New Yorkers are running on a strict timetable that isn’t even dictated by us! Just keep that in mind when you’re snapping 1,500 pictures of the Radio City Music Hall sign in the middle of the sidewalk—which also happens to be our roadway—and someone happens to speedily brush past you without looking up to smile. They’re just trying to make it from Point A to Point B, and it’s taxing enough trying to that alongside 8 million other people without a bunch of tourists acting as an extra obstacle in the mission to make it to work on time.

[It Seems Like] There’s Never Enough Money

This is not news: New York is really freakin’ expensive. You know it, I know it—there’s nothing new to be said here except that it does unfortunately add to the everyday stresses of life here. And no—not everyone makes more money by comparison to make up for the extra expenses. You pay for the experience of life in the city, but sue me for saying that the cost-to-benefits ratio doesn’t always serve as a comfort.

It Rubs Off On You

Have you ever been around a Debbie Downer for long enough that, soon enough, you found yourself in a state of melancholy? Well, being around a bunch of angsty people who have all of the above on their minds is kind of like that. Even on the days that you’re not racing the clock, and you didn’t wake up feeling like the construction equipment was drilling into your head, and even when you’re not feeling particularly stressed about paying your bills, the chances are that someone else is. Actually, a lot of people are still angsty about those—plus a million other problems that contribute to the daily human experience. So, just like sitting in traffic with a bunch of angry, honking commuters is bound to unnerve the calmest of drivers, strolling through a swarm of grouches is hard to brush off unaffected. The truth is that no matter your individual state of mind, the New York angst is contagious, so excuse us for all being so rude.

 
 
12 comments
ShreyaGarg
ShreyaGarg

I guess men in New York should know all about the women there, meanwhile if the women want to meet single men in USA they can check out MeetOutside http://www.meetoutside.com, I guess there are lots of men in the country to boss around, the more the merrier.

Dashryder56
Dashryder56

I can't tell if this article is supposed to be satire....I sure to hell hope so because if it's serious this is really really bad.  All "List" articles are bad, but if this isn't satire this is the worst.  Not one of the things on the list apply to a wide range of people.  This is like some girl is angry and wrote all of the things she feels are her best traits when really just ignorant annoying things nobody takes seriously.


So it has to be satire, written by a girl who hates single women in NYC, because nothing is flattering in the list for single women above

MuscleCuisine
MuscleCuisine

as a New Yorker born and raised I have to say that this article makes me sick to my stomach..please never attempt to write again..This toxic cliche filth is a disgrace to this site. I'll be sure to avoid this rubbish in the future

ValHeartday
ValHeartday

Obviously the writer is just a spoiled brat. It comes across clear as day. Thank's for never again pretending to speak for a demographic you obviously know nothing about lady!

jhantho45
jhantho45

seriously,, who writes this crap??!

fireinthemountain
fireinthemountain

Whilst the ladies commenting are rightfully seeing this as revolting (and it is), as a man who is hoping to settle down I am glad someone sat down and wrote it all. Thank you Jessica. You spelled out exactly the sort of women a sane man should never marry!


jenny1991
jenny1991

As a career woman myself, I am disgusted by this article.  I climb the corporate ladder with dignity and class and I do not appreciate being vouched as a bitchy hoe who cares about money, looks, and sex.  In the REAL world, the most successful women happen to be married, have kids, and preach wisdom and kindness.  Many of my mentors have always been there for me and would never give me such advice as to "I don't need men" and that I should be able to tell the job of a man from the shirt that he wears.  They would encourage me to learn new things, always take on challenges, and help my community.


This is NOT how you should pay homage to a NYer woman.  The better of us do work hard and wear weapons on our feet. But just because we are stunningly beautiful and diligent does not make it OKAY for us to think that we should feel ENTITLED.  MEN CERTAINLY ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO SERVE US and VICE VERSA.


Instead, you should be writing about how some NY women (maybe NOT you) work hard to balance work, life, and everything in between... and how we still manage to care about our looks and try to make those around us happy.  We, as women, deserve some respect because we work hard on all spheres --- NOT because we can afford the glitz and the glam and as a result, don't need a man.  


Sabraha1
Sabraha1

The death of journalism.

ree10101
ree10101

@jenny1991  I agree with everything you wrote except for "the most successful women happen to be married, have kids..." Success comes in all different shapes and sizes. Being married and having kids do not have to be part of that equation. 

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