I know what half the guys and girls who just read that headline are thinking, “Yeah, right.” To many this sounds like something we’re putting out there to make men feel better and consider themselves equal in the bedroom. I mean nothing really separates a woman from a man in the bedroom other than past experiences, which are totally irrelevant to whether the person has a penis or a vagina.

With that being said, Urologist Abraham Morgentaler, author of the new book “Why Men Fake it: The Totally Unexpected Truth,” found some contradicting revelations that really go against what common knowledge would lead us to believe. According to the urologist, the No. 1 reason a man fakes that “special” moment has nothing to do with the looks of his partner or his overall ability and performance. The No. 1 reason men fake having orgasms has to do with actually being in relationships and having deep feelings for their partners.

Now, if this makes no sense to you—and you can’t relate to being in a meaningful relationship—then just keep hooking up with random partners, because then at least you get to orgasm and never even really worry about your partner very much at all. I mean, I would consider this plan more of my philosophy, because I really don’t even see the point of engaging in intimate activity without reaching the satisfactory peak. And even though my perspective is still seen as the majority among men, there’s a growing minority of gentlemen who put their spouses’ physical needs before their own. Meaning, once their partners climaxes, they fake their orgasm so they don’t drag out the experience for their significant others.

Morgentaler claims that much of the reasoning behind faking an orgasm stems from a man’s feelings of insecurity as well as the pressure of being a perfect physical partner. What happened to the days of not cumming because your partner just didn’t know what they were doing, or you just weren’t feeling the mood? I thought this might’ve been just another over-intellectual thought in a society that is constantly over-analyzing every aspect of daily life, so I felt I had to look deeper into this “faking phenomenon.” Turns out Morgentaler may be onto something deeper than manly shortcomings.

After conducting a survey at Kansas University, the urologist found that while 70 percent of women have faked an orgasm (not shocking), a whopping 30 percent of men are also faking orgasms! So, if 100 couples are fucking at KU on any given night, statistically speaking, 70 women and 30 men are faking their orgasms! That is nothing short of insane!

To all you guys out there who are faking it: Know that it’s your decision, and no one else really cares if you take care of yourself or not. But if you continually fake your orgasm, it’s going to put a negative connotation on your and your partner’s sex life, and it will ultimately become a task instead of a fun, intimate moment with a special person. And even more importantly, if you’re at all pretending, it means you’re not being yourself, and if someone doesn’t want to be with you… fuck ’em, and then say fuck ’em.